Baby Girl keeps telling me "I wanna phone M." The first time she asked I told her that was a great idea and that we would have to set up a time. The second time she asked I looked at DH for help. What am I supposed to say?! I reminded her we couldn't call that day but we could call.
Last night DH and I talked about it. How could we make this work. I could e-mail Di or I could call her Birthgrandmothers house and set up a time. The challenge is that Baby Girl is not yet 2 so her language is obviously not great on the phone. M has Autism and is at a similar place is Baby Girl in his speech. Although I think its wonderful that Baby Girl wants to talk to M its not going to be easy.
Tonight Baby Girl again asked me "I wanna Phone M." I had to explain to her that M even though he is a big kid doesn't have the words to talk on the phone. She seemed satisfied with that explanation. I'm going to have to come up with something better.
I might set up a skype account.
My challenge is the balance between what D gets and what the other members of her birthfamily get. M, Di, and her birthgrandparents are stable. I know where to find them. D I dont know how to get ahold of her except thru the agency or by calling her parents house and she may be there- I dont know. D is not M's guardian rather his Grandparents are. So who do I ask? So far D has been in jail so it was easy since she wasn't available.
It is nice she wants to talk with M. Having a conversation with Baby Girl could help M with his language. Both Baby Girl and M know signs so they would at least have that (if we used Skype). Just because Baby Girl wants to talk to M doesn't mean her birthfamily wants M to talk to Baby Girl. The fastest way to communicate is via e-mail and Di is the only one with e-mail and I feel bad putting Di in the middle. The phone works as well but any time I've talked with her BirthGrandmother it has been after Di has set up a time for us to talk (even though we have the others #s). I know its just a matter of asking D but I also have not received any communication from her since May so who knows when I'll hear from her again.
Please tell me it gets easier!